It’s a new year, i’ve been wanting to write about what that brings me forth for some weeks, but i lacked (really!) the time. Now that i have some time in hands due to some occurrences. In this post i would like to start tackling the importance of DISCIPLINE.
A few days ago i had this question: “How do i do to achieve objectives?”, after discarding some initial answers i came with this one: “The only way one can achieve their objectives is by having discipline”. Ok, but what is “discipline” really? We seem to hold some common ideia that discipline involves organization, effort and willpower, which is ok, i’m not going to say it’s a false notion, but i feel there is a lot more to discipline and in a much better structural way.
I asked myself, what is a good way to schematic “discipline”? What is essential to this tool (if you will)?
So i made this:
Let me explain it…
First, you have the sight of an ideia/opportunity, throughout the day of a normal person this happens many times, once this happens, our paradigms/mental background/scenario/personality filters through all of this and elect the best ideias opportunities, this is where a spark of motivation happens and willpower to go after it is born. Returning a step, when we find something interesting that is set as an objective, but how clear this objective is in our mind depends upon the amount of willpower generated, i would even risk to say we have unlimited objectives, but only few ones are looked upon as worthy by us (which is ok, this has to do with focus and i will explain later why).
After that initial phase the next step is taken, action, that is where many of us have gone but few have went beyond of this, because of the cloudy part of “discipline”. What happens is that the willpower/motivation generates energy that bring us forth to trying to realized our objectives, but we fail after quite a short time, why? Because we hadn’t give enough power/time to achieve our objective, so we aren’t able to materialize our vision. Though many of us, if not taken by other objectives, will keep trying, this is “persistence”, the recycling symbol near willpower means that over time, willpower will be charged enough again to remake an attempt, following the path of persistence, this is one aspect of discipline, and many are capable of seeing this, but there is a more forgotten and harder aspect of discipline needed too, named “consistence”.
Consistence is the ability of doing something over and over again in a pace that make things possible to be achieved, the more consistency one have towards an objective, the faster they will be able to make it true (if this consistency is held with quality and efficiency at least). There is a break even point to start making things happen, example: If you start holding more money than what you spend, you will start increase your reserves. That was a very simple example just to show how consistency works. But what makes consistency possible?
As you might have already seen in the graphic above, habit is the key to unlock consistence, that information alone could help some people that know how to change their own habits, but most of the people doesn’t know how to do that. In order to change one’s habit, one should always seek to build momentum, be gradual, take your time, work on what you wanna do but take the baby steps first, build up over time, in that way it’s almost sure you can achieve anything. Though, somethings doesn’t seem to work in that manner, for example, a NO FAP journey requires a lot of trying over and over again, that is why persistence is needed for discipline and consistency alone isn’t the only thing needed. By the way, if one is having trouble in making some habits, other than momentum one can use the tool of rebuilding the subconscious signals from NPL, how do you do this? Example: Let’s say you always binge eat junk food when you return home from work, because in the way to your house, there is a Mac Donalds, you can go through another route so you don’t keeping sending and reinforcing the signal of binge eating whenever that situation appears, at least for a time, in order to rewire your brain, after that, you can try to slowly using your older route (remember? momentum building), once you feel confident enough you can return you daily habitual route 365 days of the year.
TIME IS THE MEASURE, PATIENCE IS THE KEY
There is a myriad of things that only work given due time, and we are not used to that, we really are faulting when it comes to psychologically grasp long term commitment. It’s easy to map out a solution to others problems and struggles, but it is really hard to follow a solution we planned until the end (if your are wise enough to set a limit time, which is a totally must!). Not only that, but we get lost in the conception of new plans to resolve our problems, and in doing so, we never really give the necessary time to experience if the primary planned solution would work or not, and gets even worse, because as soon as we change to our new plan, a new one appears and we are tempted to change again, and so on and so forth, the cycle goes. Although, there is more, the plan part is just one side of our demise, the other side is the difficulties we all have to face during the execution of our plans, if we are not strongly decided and prepared, we give up really fast, like the tick of the berk!
What for “god’s” sake could save us then? Maybe this: Ask yourself whenever your face difficulties, pains and struggle, “what is the most important thing i should be doing right now? What is my goal? What should i be doing?”, and keep in your head daily the 2 sides i have told you about above.
Remember, some things only show result after months, a year, 5 years or maybe even a decade, so be patient!
And maybe that can be enough to build your patience alone, if not, your are not completely lost now, you at least have a light to look forward.
So… in this year, as i am almost sure you, dear reader, as many others have had this thought of making something greater in their life, achieving goals and dreams, realizing visions, complete all your new’s year resolution, i want you to take this from this post. I really hope you start using more of these tools, and commit yourselves to learn more about them, not only that, but to master their use, i’m here to help you with my experience if you find it valuable, let’s walk together the path towards our ultimate visions!
Make yourself 2017 your best year ever!
More content to come, stay tuned!